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Nadia De Sedas
About this commitment: Exercising regularly.

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Nadia De Sedas
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With this commitment I make my decision public to make exercise regularly, By My… By my Health… By a Better style of Vida

May 28, 2009 | 9:27 AM Comments  0 comments

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Nadia De Sedas
About this commitment: having a goal in our life

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Nadia De Sedas
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My goal in the life is to do my better and greater effort every day in each activity and contodas the people with whom it finds me. To work to make of this world a better place where to live

May 28, 2009 | 9:24 AM Comments  0 comments

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Gay adoptions and negative consequences?
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I like to read The Advocate, because it gives a pretty detailed view of the gay issue in the U.S.
I read that there seem to be negative consequences after adoptions by gay couples in the U.S.
Though it is true that children adopted by gay couples do not have sexual orientation problems, many are being rejected by their school mates when they discover that there are two dads or two moms. And they were referring to grammar school.
I am not against any kind of adoption. It is a well known fact that there are millions of children who dream of having parents. But societies, in general, should help to assure that the consequences are positive in the long run.
And it is important to remember that the psychological need to belong as a son is so strong that many young people may fall prey to people who are more interested in possessing them than loving them.
The issue is very important.
I hope there are comments.

December 29, 2008 | 6:19 PM Comments  1 comments

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Merry Christmas
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I really hope that for this coming year there will be better understanding among mankind.
There is a need to respect each other, in spite of all the differences that all of us have as humans.
I still have hope for the planet.
And I have hope for us.

December 24, 2008 | 5:02 PM Comments  0 comments

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Feliz Navidad
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Merry Christmas
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Merry Christmas
Receive my tightest bear hug.
Alex Canton

December 24, 2008 | 12:01 AM Comments  1 comments

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Too "pretty" for a man
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I recall that among people of my generation, when a little boy or an adolescent man was described as "pretty", the spontaneous comment among Panamanians was: "He's too pretty to be a man."
This demonstrates that, at least in my times, when we were not so exposed to the dictates of fashion and gender-beauty we did have a stereotyped "macho" vision of how a man should look like.
Men had to be "good looking" -- guapo -- but without any exaggerated femenine facial characteristics. Definitely none of the attributes adjudicated to "metrosexuals", whom a friend of man describes as "a meter away from being gay..."
But, I have the impression that this has not changed very much, because during group therapy sessions with troubled sexual oriented male clients they would classify any "cute" guy as "gay". I would interpret that they were actually saying "wish he were gay."
In the world of non-human animals, in any case, beauty is a symbol of masculinity. In the bird kingdom, the male is the one who sings and is more colorful...
But, I do not think that masculine beauty, in the case of us humans, has anything to do with being homosexual.

December 22, 2008 | 10:00 AM Comments  0 comments



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How to create a new thread?
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This new version of TIG seems to be very good, but I have not been able to figure out how to create a new thread.
Could someone be so kind to instruct me?
Thank you,
AlexCanton

December 19, 2008 | 10:23 AM Comments  1 comments



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Homophobia : Illness or rejection?
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I recall that when I was director of the Panamanian Association against AIDS , between 1990-1995, I was branded as "homophobic" because in an international meeting I suggested that, at the time, many pro-gay organizations were using VIH/AIDS as an excuse for proselitizing. And I wasn't about to allow that to happen in Panama because the epidemic did not have a sexual orientation -- gay -- basis. And history has proven me right.
But I was surprised by the brand as working with this cause, especially in those times, was enough to be perceived as "suspect."
A "phobia" is an irrational, involuntary fear of an object or situation. For example, being so afraid of flying that a person is willing to lose its job rather than flying. A phobia is a psychiatric illness, and it is classified as such by the International Classificacion of Illnesses of the World Health Organization.
On the other hand, the so-called "homo-phobia" is a rejection, voluntary, profound and with identifiable motives: culture, religion, education, etc.
If someone has "rejection-hate" towards gays, I do not like it, but it is its right.
I suggest that we all be more careful before using an adjective to describe another person.
Well, this is my personal, clinical, opinion. And I would like to read others.

December 18, 2008 | 9:35 AM Comments  0 comments



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"¡Soy madre-padre...!"
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“ I am mother-father…”
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This one is a very Panamanian expression between the mothers who raise to their children without the presence of the father. In fact, it has been used like flag of propaganda in presidential campaigns.
I have never liked this expression because she locks up many unreal aspects and negative
the unconscious message is Generally: “I do not need a man for anything…” And this takes to the mother to extend its wrath towards the children men: … “ You are igualito to your father… you do not serve for anything! “Which takes to the boy to ask itself if, really, it is not worth the trouble to look oneself like the father… or better not to have been born man.
To the women whom really work has been called on to them to the duro to raise its single children it is necessary to congratulate them.
But they must remember that a woman never can be father.
I would prefer that they talk about to themselves like “super mother.” This would increase its self-esteem to them without damage of the self-esteem of its children.

December 17, 2008 | 11:19 AM Comments  0 comments



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El VIH no es "contagioso."
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The VIH is not “contagious.”
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In the Spanish language it is happening a phenomenon that in Panama we are trying to correct.
When the writers talk about the VIH they say that “he is infected. ”
In fact, this virus does not infect itself…. retrovirus of the influenza, for example, yes, because their particles are in the air when sneezing.
Retrovirus of the VIH “transmits” of infected person to person dno infected. Or of an object with the virus -- needle with infected blood -- to a person without the virus.
Hopefully all those that write in Spanish use the correct expression: The VIH is a TRANSMISSIBLE one…. or it is possible also to be said is an INFECTIOUS virus.
Peculiarly, in the English language they do not use the word “contagious” to talk about to the previous thing.

December 16, 2008 | 11:59 AM Comments  0 comments

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"El triángulo de Bieber"
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“The triangle of Bieber”
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Several decades ago they taught to us, in the university, which was believed were the bases of the homosexualidad. It was put very fashionable what the “triangle of Bieber was denominated,” formed by the boy, his father and his mother.
The interesting thing, according to the author, was that it was a relation composed by a dominant mother, a weak or absent father and the boy, who would finish being homosexual.
If previous the outside certain thing, most of the Panamanian men would be homosexual, because that one is the model of the Panamanian families.
In my clinical practice I knew many homosexuals who came completely from normal families. And also I found families type triangle of Bieber without no homosexual son.
I exclusively did not work with a homosexual casuistry but yet kind of problems of sexual order. Therefore, yes I took hundreds from sexual histories to Panamanian men, and the majority yes reported to have had some sexual activity with some man at some time of its life. But this activity does not describe them like homosexuals.
However, which I report has clinical anecdotal value but scientific nonvalidity. Verify all this I let it colleagues to my young.
And this one is the reason for which I share my experience of more than four decades in TIGGlobal, for benefit of the young professionals.

December 16, 2008 | 9:04 AM Comments  0 comments



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Abrazos sin intención sexual
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Hugs without sexual intention
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Virginia Satir, famous familiar therapist says that “we needed 4 hugs to the day to survive, 8 per day for maintenance and 12 hugs to the day to grow (emotionally). Sure this is varying from the childhood to the adult life. But the important thing is that the hugs are important in the newspaper to struggle.
In the group therapies many members, initially, responded with fear to the group hug. In several sessions there were some that said that they did not know to give hugs that did not have a sexual connotation. Others simply reacted with ambivalence of feelings because they did not remember to have received hugs, never.
Nowadays the “therapeutic hug” exists, the “therapy of the hug”, and its benefit has been verified scientifically. The psychoanalytic times finished in which it could not have no physical approach between therapist and patient. Naturally, the therapist surely must estaa of being able to give a hug without sexual content.

December 15, 2008 | 8:45 AM Comments  0 comments



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Preguntas de una madre
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Questions of a mother
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I received a call of a mother who needed to clarify her doubts. As it seemed to me of general interest, I decided to summarize the consultation next:
Basically, the lady was worried about her son “to teenager” who has to him counted that thinks that he is homosexual. The boy told that as a child they said much to him, in the school, things like: “You are going to be gay… You seem fag Obvious…
“, the mother wished to know if there were some relation between these “predictions” and the homosexualidad.
As I do not know the person at issue, there is much additional information necessary to know if, really, the young person is homosexual or is happening through a stage of conflict in his psicosexual identity. But what yes I can say to him it is that there is no a relation between message-prognoses and the homosexual being.
However, which yes can happen is that the young victim of these messages is growing with little self-esteem, doubts on his hombría -- psychologically -- and she can have, in the long run, difficulties in his interaction with opposite sex.
Yes I had very many homosexual patients who reported that as a child they commentd out similar to them. And also they added that it was because they did not follow the stereotype of the children -- robust, players of contact sports and others. They tended to be more “fine”, and therefore they were rejected.
But also I had patients who followed this pattern and they were not homosexual, but consulted due to difficulties to maintain a good self-esteem.
In other words, the negative-predictive messages do not have a relation cause-effect with the homosexualidad, but with the mental health.

December 12, 2008 | 10:35 AM Comments  0 comments

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"Tiene 8 años y se ve tan afeminado..."
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“It is 8 years old and it is seen so effeminate…”
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This expression appeared to me very frequently in consultation. One talks about a “behavior more feminine than masculine. ”
What I did I was to investigate the near social surroundings of the boy. Generally the children in Panama grow up within matriarcado with little participation of a paternal figure.
The boy can be imitating the ladies who surround it. But I always requested to talk with the father or paternal figure.
In many cases the father or paternal figure also behaved “effeminately,” which brought like consequence that the boy followed the imitation pattern normal.
In these circumstances one was not due to foretell that the boy went nor was going to be homosexual. Generally, with the change of comportamientoi of the ancestor or substitute everything was fixed.
But, if in spite of this “the mannered” behavior continues towards the puberty and the boy rejects the social interaction with opposite sex. . Or if note that, for example, becomes “the best “friend” of its friends”… it is necessary to be thinking about facing a homosexual sexual direction.
However, it has to go little by little, to consult between the ancestors, not to diminish the self-esteem of the boy and to dare to make the consultation professional if it is considered necessary.

December 11, 2008 | 7:17 AM Comments  0 comments



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¡Se prendió el Rancho!
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Catch oned the Farm!
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What becomes when the family confirms that a son is gay?
It is not easy to summarize, but I see it like a boxing, but that must be left tie. The family will have all the elements to argue against -- generally -- and the son will have his to do it to favor.
The best thing is to occur 24 hours of reflection and soon to talk. There will be many subjects, and they do not have to try to solve them all in a sitting… for example, if there is a pair, that is not the moment to bring it to house and to impose its acceptance. If the boy is very young, is possible that he is in a stage of “experimentation” and the family will want to put rules… it is always necessary to put rules in house. If of legal age, it is already educated, professional, it must assume the corresponding responsibilities. In short, in the worse one of the cases it is necessary to surpass the fear to make a consultation professional so that it helps to mediate. Panama is very small and, as they say that way, “everything is known.” It is necessary to learn to fight with this reality. To be member of a minority causes that the family feels including. And to anybody it likes to feel including without its approval.

December 10, 2008 | 11:08 AM Comments  0 comments



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